We’ve all met them, been dazzled by them, or completely
repulsed by them. Regardless of what your type is these guys come in all forms.
Unfortunately we don’t know how to avoid or resist them. Dating is getting
even more difficult as the weeks go on. Not only are there commitment phobes,
but the whole game is changing as fast as what’s trending on Twitter. Here are
a few red flags to warn you about the types of guys they are and how they’re
most likely not going to change if anything were to happen. Sorry ladies.
1.
He always lets you pay for the bill (split or
whole)
Okay so I know we live in a world where
women are just as independent as men and are well established working career
women but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be wined and dined. As I say wined and
dined I don’t meant this should be throughout the whole dating experience at
expensive restaurants, but if a women decides to pay at the beginning of the
relationship you’ll be setting the tone and more often than not you will be used and taken advantage of.
2.
He’s in his late twenties and still lives at
home
If he’s still living at home and he’s over 25 maybe 26 then he’s never
going to grow up. I understand if he’s in a post-grad or doctorate program and
he needs to save money, but if he’s working and just sponging off his parents
for laundry and home cooked meals every night it’s time to say buh-bye. You
need a man ladies not a boy.
3.
He wants you to pick up after him
As stated in number 2, if he wants to be taken care of (and that’s fine
to take care of your man within reason) you are not his maid or his mommy. You are his
partner. You don’t need to be picking up after him, cleaning up his messes, and
scolding him during an argument. This will only get worse in the future and the
romantic relationship dynamic will be lost.
4.
He doesn’t like the phone
I’m sorry, but during the courting stages of the relationship you better have
your phone with you dude. It’s not even about being clingy or not responding to
a text, it’s just common courtesy and respect. If he doesn’t like to call or
respond to text messages then this will only get worse if you guys start dating
exclusively. If he’s gone out for the night and doesn’t bother checking
in, then you shouldn’t be worrying when your partner doesn’t care enough to let
you know everything is cool and he's alright.
5.
He doesn’t know what he’s looking for
He
tells you he’s infatuated with you and loves being with you every minute and then
when you part ways you don’t hear from him for two weeks. Then when you’re
together again, everything is fine and it continues like that for five days and
he tells you you’re amazing. More often than not if he’s not fully committing
to you he doesn’t want to be with you no matter what he says. If a guy wants to
be with you he’ll be with you.
So there you have it. A little summary of the guys you
should stay away from, break away from or don't even go near them.
-Kayla Ragone*
